Warning - this post might come off as a little whiny but that's basically what I am right at this moment! A whiny mommy that just needs to vent and let loose!
I sit here typing this post and there are at least 10 other things I need to be doing right now - there's probably more but I refuse to actually think about it because that would just make me feel worse! There you see is my problem - I do not have the time to do it ALL!
I am in deperate need of a few more hours in my day though the reality is that not only is that not happening - I doubt it would do me much good! I'd just find more things to add to my list, lol!
This is ME - I am always moving, planning, thinking, doing. Yet I feel as if I am never caught up - the household chores are piling up, responsibilities at work are amounting to more than my "part-time" status allows for, etc...
What gets me is that others seem to have no qualms about adding to my list - assuming that I am a stay-at-home mom so I must have all this time on my hands! What planet are they visiting - because I'd like to go there? Where I am free to exercise, get manicures/pedicures, meet with friends for breakfast or lunch, shop.... I know a few mom's who have that kind of life - I DON"T! That I'm not complaining about - don't get me wrong. I am a stay-at-home mom so that I can be with my girls - that's my favorite part of all of this. What gets me is that so many people think being a Stay-at-Home Mom is all of those things I mentioned above - that I don't actually do any work. This is by far the hardest and most demanding job I have ever had. It's also personally the most fulfilling and I feel blessed to be able to have this time with my girls. I just wish I had more time to enjoy it.
I work part-time while my girls are in school in the morning and our afternoons are full. I currently have laundry waiting to be put away since probably Sunday - it's Friday! Sigh! Where's the maid when I need her? Oh, right - that would be me - the girl sitting here typing instead of putting away the laundry, lol!
I can't even imagine what things will be like when I do go back to work full time. How do you full time working mamas do it? I know certain things just have to take a back seat but how do you decide what that should be? How do you not feel guilty about what doesn't get done?
I feel so gulity about all the things I am not getting to in my day - like I am not doing a good job of this whole Stay-at-home Mom thing in certain areas! How do we find the time for everything? How do you come to terms with the fact that you are not SuperMom or SuperWoman? Right now, I'm struggling with that. :(
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Seriously- that is EXACTLY how I feel! There is not enough hours in a day- I can't get anything done and I feel guilty all the darn time!
ReplyDeleteI don't want to know what it is going to be like when I go back full time!
I know what you mean...the same basket of laundry is taking up space on my bedroom floor.
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I don't know how you moms with more than one bundle of joy can do it. I only have one toddler and a SAHM but I've behind on the daily house keep since she was born. Here's to attempting to find the balance!
ReplyDeleteI feel the same way most of the time. 3 little boys... age 4 and under, they are a hand full most days and keep me from getting house stuff done and errands... etc. But lately I've been making a weekly list of the top 10 things I need or want to get done and it's been working great. I feel like by the end of the week I have almost completed most of my list. And it's helping me organized. AND we can not beat ourselves up about not be SUPER MOM and magically getting everything done, it's nearly impossible. :) have a great weekend!
ReplyDeleteI only have one kiddo and no part time job and yet often my laundry sits for weeks waiting to be put away too. I don't know, it's just hard to get everything done. I always feel guilty too about what I don't accomplish in a day (or week/month/year...decade) and feel like I'm not very good at this.
ReplyDeleteBut you know what, you're a great mom. You spend one on one quality time with your girls, they have fun, and they learn. That's the most important thing! And if you're too busy to get the laundry done because you were doing a craft with your girls...well, I say that's okay. Some moms are able to do both. Good for them. But many moms focus on the housework while the kids are dying for attention.
One good thing is that your girls are a little older. I'm not sure if they have chores or not, but maybe now's the time to have them start helping with a few smaller things...like putting away the laundry. It might not be much, but it's a start :)
(When Adaline "helps" me with the laundry she pulls it all out of the basket and throws it on the floor while smiling at me and saying "laundry, laundry". It takes me twice as long to fold it, but I don't care. She's having fun and hopefully she'll be that eager to help when she's a little older.)
I am in the same boat but I work part time and a full time job at the moment. Laundry sits downstairs for a good week before it gets folded and put away. The mopping doesn`t always get done as much as I would like but hey there isn`t enough time. Also I NEED me time `blogging time`or else I would stress out.
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